our upstairs neighbor in the condo stomps around a lot and slams her patio door ... I am sure it is to tell us how displeased she is with the smoking but we have made several concessions ... first of all David and I don't smoke out there together anymore ... that way there isn't so much smoke at one time ... it is a bummer cause we have some of our best talks while sitting and having a cig ... but ya know whatever ... we talk all the fucking time ... secondly we put a fan out on the patio ... it TOTALLY blows the smoke away and down from the patio ... I haven't seen any of it rise up in the air since putting the fan out there ... on high mind you ...


I have become quite uncomfortable being there ... and I just have to stop that feeling ... it is my house .. we own it ... and David and I are planning on living there for some time ... we have put a HELL of a lot of work into the place ... and although everyone around me ... including my family ... keep saying "screw her" ... it is hard for me to feel that way ... I am a compassionate person ... I hate to know I am willfully making someone unhappy ... but at the same time I have to say I am putting forth an effort to make everyone happy ... I just need to learn to move on and stop letting things effect me so much ...


in NY I asked our upstairs neighbor to stop taking our mail in their house [it was all put into one box] and that didn't happen ... I also mentioned I would rather them not listen in on our conversations or at least if they did to not bring them up with me ... that didn't stop happening ... I dropped the hint in passing that they had so much garbage piled up in the back yard that raccoons and squirrels were feasting the night away and that if it wasn't taken to the curb rats would be next ... but they just piled more on top of the old ... but then I would hate to think I were like them because I hated having them as neighbors ...


I gotta stop stressing myself out ... David and I are working too hard on this place to hate it because of one person ... shit I saw what she bought her place for 3 years ago ... if she hates us that much she can sell it and double her money ... :)