Past Time To Go

So I wrote a while back about David letting people stay with us that needed a leg up ... the thing I am not understanding is how when we have opened our home to people that can be so rude and thoughtless ...

The girl that was staying on the couch was told she could stay for Thursday and Friday ... on Saturday she needed another day before she had a place to stay ... and Sunday turned in to several more days ... then she disappeared for a few days and showed back up again and was here for almost a week again ... missed a couple of days and was back again ... each time leaving her stuff here ... after about 3 weeks of this David told her that it was time to find a new place to live and even offered up some suggestions ... she was pissed ... left her stuff here which he had to bring to her and the next time he saw her she stormed out and slammed the door ... now she asked for 2 night and had been here off and on for 3 weeks ... ate our food ... asked David to get her a prescription ... and lots of little stuff ... how do you do that??

Now the other person that has been staying with us has been here for 3 months now ... the idea was that he was having a bit of a rough time and David offered him up to stay with us while he worked on getting his shit together and get back on his feet ... when we all sat down to talk about it he said he really appreciates all we are doing for him ... that he will help with stuff around the house and to not be surprised if once in a while he left some money on the counter ...

The first 2 weeks while he was on the couch he was awesome ... mowed the lawn which was nice mostly because David could spend time with the family on the weekend rather than doing housework ... helped David weed our crazy garden and got plastic down on one half ... and then that was it ... he hasn't done anything else around the house ... seemed to coincide with when we cleaned out the extra room and he moved in there from the couch ...

He kept bringing more and more of his stuff over ... he put his own bathmat and toilet cover and stuff in the bathroom ... and feeding us lines about waiting for a birth certificate so he could get a new social security card and yadda yadda yadda ... when his girlfriend came to visit David made it clear that the room was for just him ... as he was going to meet her he asked David to borrow 200 dollars ... we don't have money to spare but he told David he would pay him back in 2 days when he got paid ... it took 5 days to get 120 of it back ... and another week or so to get another 10 of it ... but that is all we got back ... and while his girlfriend was visiting David let him borrow his car to go see her and he got a $40 speed camera ticket ... he also brought her over without asking anyone about it on a Friday night when it just wasn't how anyone wanted to spend the evening ... and as we were all sitting around the fire out back he waited till she went inside and asked if she could spend the night ... after we already told him she couldn't stay ... totally puts us in a corner ...

MIA

So I've been missing in action for a while now ... planning Schuyler's 4th birthday party took every spare moment I had ... and now that we had a successful party I am getting back into the swing of things ...

I do have a whole bunch of photos to post from the party that I am hoping to go through tonight ... and get posted ... we had such an excellent time ...

I Gotta Do It

So I know I said I wasn't going to write anything that I would regret later ... but I just can't hold it in ...

Tonight was supposed to be my night ... a Liz night ... Lincoln asleep ... and David and Schuyler on a movie date to see a sneak preview of Oceans ... it was supposed to be a fun night for everyone ... and our house guest was supposed to go home today ...

Me Me Me

(This post might sound a bit complaining but it isn't the intention ... sometimes you just need to get stuff out to get past it)

There are moments in time where I wish someone was thinking about me ... and that includes myself ... I am pretty sure they happen ... but they are so few and far between ... or I had to ask to get them ... that it just isn't what I crave ...

Now my children are too little to think of me as anything but Mommy (or in Lincoln's case mmmmmama) ... so I am not expecting them to see me as someone who needs my own time or space ... that will happen when they go off till college ...

But some things that I think about ...  like dishes ... I am not the only one that lives here or uses the dishes ... but I am the only one that knows how to empty the dishwasher and load it again ... and I say to my dearly beloved that we both need to participate ... and that I would appreciate his help ... and even go on to ask if he needs a tutorial ... and he laughs and says, "I know ... I feel horrible ... I just suck ... I should do this more." ... but it is like Groundhog day and again I empty the dishwasher ... load it up again ... and again he tells me how he sucks ... ahhhhh yea you are right ... with this you do ...

Picking up toys is the same thing ... now Skye does help ... but still I do the majority ...