9 days till I get married

I picked a good time to blog again ... cause I have shit to get off my chest ...


I can't believe I spent a portion of last night telling off/arguing with my future brother-in-law's girlfriend, woops I mean fiance ... about the whole driving the father thing ...


I am pretty passive ... I don't let things get to me ... but last night I let it rip ... she and I went at it - IM style - about them not driving him down ... telling me she didn't want her fiance to be made to feel guilty for his decision ... and that the whole driving the dad down hinged on the very fragile and hard family dynamic dad has at with each of his sons at one time or another ...


I called her bullshit ...


I told her I never said anything to make him feel guilt ... any guilt he felt was self inflicted for making such a selfish decision ... and that he had driven his dad down here for the last two years on the same weekend so don't give me some "family dynamic" about the whole trip ...


She then said "I hope I can say this without offending you but if you are so worried buy him a plane ticket" ... my response - "ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ..."


I explained we spent a ridiculous amount of money for this wedding and that sure $150 wasn't that much for a ticket but that we were pretty tapped out ... and that this is what I meant when I said no one realizes there is a wedding going on that weekend and that it is ours ... we shouldn't have to be dealing with all this shit ...


eventually I told her I had nothing more to say to her and that I had to get work done ... it is just such bullshit ... I or David shouldn't have to be dealing with this ... and he is just so upset ... he sounds like a bride ... yesterday he was saying, "Fuck man everyone around us seems to have no idea that this is our wedding ... it is our one time to do something for ourselves and have fun. Everyone is trying to compete with the wedding and the 4th of July and I am fucking sick of all of it" ...


He is absolutely right ... people are asking all sorts of stuff of us ... planning their own events for that same weekend while everyone is here ... Yes I understand lots of people are in town but I know these people would be pissed if we had honed in on their wedding ... planning stuff for our kids or our birthdays or whatever ...


OK my tirade is over ... I have 9 days till I get married ... a million things to do ... so for now I am off to work ... if I get there early I can leave early which means I have more time to get stuff done ... :)