9 days till I get married

I picked a good time to blog again ... cause I have shit to get off my chest ...


I can't believe I spent a portion of last night telling off/arguing with my future brother-in-law's girlfriend, woops I mean fiance ... about the whole driving the father thing ...


I am pretty passive ... I don't let things get to me ... but last night I let it rip ... she and I went at it - IM style - about them not driving him down ... telling me she didn't want her fiance to be made to feel guilty for his decision ... and that the whole driving the dad down hinged on the very fragile and hard family dynamic dad has at with each of his sons at one time or another ...


I called her bullshit ...


I told her I never said anything to make him feel guilt ... any guilt he felt was self inflicted for making such a selfish decision ... and that he had driven his dad down here for the last two years on the same weekend so don't give me some "family dynamic" about the whole trip ...


She then said "I hope I can say this without offending you but if you are so worried buy him a plane ticket" ... my response - "ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ..."


I explained we spent a ridiculous amount of money for this wedding and that sure $150 wasn't that much for a ticket but that we were pretty tapped out ... and that this is what I meant when I said no one realizes there is a wedding going on that weekend and that it is ours ... we shouldn't have to be dealing with all this shit ...


eventually I told her I had nothing more to say to her and that I had to get work done ... it is just such bullshit ... I or David shouldn't have to be dealing with this ... and he is just so upset ... he sounds like a bride ... yesterday he was saying, "Fuck man everyone around us seems to have no idea that this is our wedding ... it is our one time to do something for ourselves and have fun. Everyone is trying to compete with the wedding and the 4th of July and I am fucking sick of all of it" ...


He is absolutely right ... people are asking all sorts of stuff of us ... planning their own events for that same weekend while everyone is here ... Yes I understand lots of people are in town but I know these people would be pissed if we had honed in on their wedding ... planning stuff for our kids or our birthdays or whatever ...


OK my tirade is over ... I have 9 days till I get married ... a million things to do ... so for now I am off to work ... if I get there early I can leave early which means I have more time to get stuff done ... :)

Here is the scenario

Here is the scenario ...


You are driving to your siblings wedding ... it is about a 5 hour drive and your fiance is riding with you ... your father lives in the same area as you and he is 64 years old ... he too is going to the wedding ...


do you ...

A) Give your dad a ride

B) Make him drive all alone


In my opinion ... a good person would give their dad a ride and not feel inconvenienced by it ... I mean they are going from and to the same place and he is 64 years old ...


But if you are a guest at our wedding you tell your dad to find his own way to the wedding ... cause he doesn't like your music and you are just too selfish to give the man a ride!!!!

just a thought ...

I've been thinking about it ... and the commercial for the birth control patch is on all the time ... and the women seem so happy and excited to be sticking a patch on themselves ... "ohhhh how easy birth control is now" ... but I believe a man came up with that idea so he could see that his woman is taking birth control ... with a pill a skeptical man could think she isn't "really" taking it ... because unless he watches her swallow it he can't be sure ... so it is a way for men to "tag" women so they know they are getting their dose each day ...


... like all we are thinking about doing is trapping that man into having a baby with us ... yea that is what we spend our time doing ... :)


just a thought ...

new site design

Well a new site design constitutes actually writing something in my blog [the design is mirrored after all of the party favors I've made for the wedding] ... 2 weeks from today I'll be getting married ... I can't believe it ... at one point I never thought this time would come ... now to say I am two weeks away gets me nervous and excited ... excited to marry David ... nervous I won't finish all my projects in time ...


so any of you without a calendar ... two weeks from today is July 4th ... our countries independence day ... and Davids un-independence day ... :) ... as we celebrate our country becoming free David will say "I do" meaning no more freedom for him ... I kid of course ... we are really just doing it so he can get on my medical insurance ... :)


I am quite a do-it-yourself-er ... so I have made a million things for this wedding ... sure when it is all over I am going to have so much time for so many things ... but at the same time I think I will miss all the projects ...


things I made for the wedding:

CDs [we actually had a guy rip them and print right on the cd ... came out great]

CD covers

personalized matches [bought box matches and put my own stickers on them]

our invitation

program [still working on these]

little packets of sparklers

newsletter for out of town guests

bags for the guests hotel rooms

party bags for the wedding guests

silver tins for personalized M&Ms

stars covered in glitter for the escort cards

escort cards


all sorts of stuff ... even the list is starting to bore me ... hahahaaa ... every time I finished one project I would find another one to start on ...


my father has so kindly offered to help me today ... so for fathers day we are taking all the items that go in all the guest bags over to my parents house ... and we are going to fill the bags and tie the ribbon ... and I can leave them all over there ... which means we might actually be able to clean our house soon ... it has been a disaster for the last couple of months ... with all the wedding crap all over the place and all the blinds David needs to install for jobs ... it is a wonder we can even walk room to room ...


we aren't having a really big wedding ... but the people that are coming I have known for years and years so that will make it so special ... friends of our family that I have known since I was 4 years old are actually making the trip from California ... it will be their first time in Washington DC ... it is so exciting people can do that ... and with it being a smaller affair I will be able to spend time with everyone here ...


shit ya know I can't remember if I had written about this but on May 19th my brother and his wife had a baby girl ... she is just the cutest thing around and every time I leave the house I want to buy something for her ... I might be going a bit crazy on the baby clothes thing but buying for girls is so great ... her name is Eliana [el E ana] and everyone calls her Ellie ... she is still keeping them awake all the time ... and you can tell they are very tired ... but goodness she is cute ... I can't wait till she is old enough to babysit and David and I get to spend an evening with her ...


David is very much on the baby train that is for sure ... he is ready, willing, and able ... although we won't have a honeymoon baby I think we are going to try very soon ... I mean shit he will be 40 next year and I will be 35 ... although most would guess we are in our late 20s which is nice ... but biology knows better ... it is fun seeing the stunned look on peoples faces when I tell them I am not 25 or better yet when David has to show his license to prove he isn't 27 ... which he had to do last weekend with my brother's in-laws ... they just couldn't believe it ... :)


well I am going to try and get better at writing again ... I know I have said that a million times but since the wedding stuff is winding down I might be able to ... besides I have a week between the wedding and our honeymoon ... we are taking a cruise out of Baltimore [woohoo no flying] ... going to a couple of stops in Florida and the Bahamas ... we haven't been on a vacation in 3 years ... it is going to be so nice to get away from everything and spend some fun time with each other ... I can hardly wait :)

nothing really exciting

I just never seem to write anymore ... maybe cause nothing really exciting is happening ... wedding planning has been tiring me out ... I just want to get it overwith at this point ... I want to be David's wife ... have a vacation ... and start the baby making ... well maybe give married life a few months before the baby making ...


My brother and his wife could have their baby at any moment now ... I am kinda bummed they aren't going to call anyone till they have had the baby ... I understand they don't want anyone there but I would love to get a call as they were on their way ... so that I could kind of share in the excitement ... but oh well people have to do what is best for them ... I understand that ...


I miss Kris ... she took a new job a couple of months ago and we hardly ever talk ... we used to talk anywhere from twice to 8 times a day ... now we talk like twice a week ...


I have to go to the dentist tomorrow and I freaking out a bit about it ... I had so many surgeries in my mouth as a kid and so much shit going on in there that I get a bit wigged out now that I am an adult ... and I am 100% sure I have a cavity which doesn't make going any easier ... I wish it was a guy that practiced sleep dentistry ... but I'll tell you this ... I am going to get as much gas as I can ...


I have been thinking about starting a paper business ... ya know specialty papers for invitations and announcements ... I would love to sell the supplies [cause they I would get them for cheaper] but I would also love to make invitations for people ... I've been trying to come up with a good name but it is harder than one would think ...


David's birthday is this month ... on the 25th ... and I am once again in a quandary as to what to get him ... usually i am great at getting people gifts but with David I SUCK ... there is a big box full of reject gifts from Liz ... I kid you not ... most of them don't even sell on eBay ... it is a sad thing I'll tell ya that ...


We are going to one of my all time favorite restaurants for Mother's Day on Sunday ... Mon Ami Gabi ... the place rocks ... I'll probably stop eating Saturday afternoon just so I am good and ready for Sunday night ...


I have become totally hooked to two shows lately ... Airline and Showbiz Moms and Dads ... Airline is just super fantastic ... I have absolutely loved every episode ... so cool of Southwest ... I knew there was a reason my dad and I are diehard Southwest fans ... and Showbiz Moms and Dads is great ... I do feel a bit bad for the kids but it is a great show ... very interstice ... I stayed up way too late watching it last night even though I was TiVoing it at the same time ...


ok I have rambled long enough ... I should get some sleep ... my bed is so comfy lately I get so excited to lay down :)

Postcards For Mom

Postcards For Mom

This site is so damn funny I can't believe it ... you must check it out ... I only wish I had thought of it :)

calmed down

Well I have calmed down quite a bit since my last post ... David and I took Friday off of work and applied for our marriage license ... we also went and ordered our cake ... then we spent the day hanging out at my parent's house while they had a movie theather installed in their basement ... OK well maybe not a movie theather but a big fabric screen on the wall and an overhead projector on the ceiling ... it really is so cool ... my dad has wanted to do this for so so so long and he hardly ever dones anything for himself so he went for it ... he was just like a kid he was so excited ...


yesterday I spent the whole day printing stuff that I either need to cut our or assemble or whatever ... it felt like I got a whole bunch accomplished ... and while I do laundry today I am going to keep working on cutting or assemblying or whatever ...


Today is my friend Heather's birthday ... I wish I could be in Kansas and celebrate with her ... I sure hope they are having nice weather because she is having a BBQ down at the lake ...


well unfortunately the time has come for me to start my laundry ... god how i hate to do laundry ... i should have started it yesterday but I just wasn't in the mood ... not that I ever am but anyway ... I am off ... I sure hope everyone who celebrates Easter is having a wonderful Easter Sunday ... as for us we probably won't do anything Easter-y until we have kids who want the sugar ... :)